embrace the space
originally posted on the GOOD blog, here.
We crave connection so much. And time, energy, attention, love, touch, & companionship. But in this uber connected world, what ever happened to craving space?
Your twenties are all about change - changing paths, changing cities, changing jobs, changing dreams. While you’re out there finding yourself, you'll most likely find moments of opportunity that completely conflict with the life you’re living at that moment. These opportunities are scary enough - but add the fear of leaving someone you love and the fear intensifies. Of course we all say - “I’m not going to let someone stop me from what I want to do” - but what happens when we feel so strongly about a person that we just don’t want to let go? I always think of Lauren not going to Paris because of Jason, in The Hills. (We still love you, Lauren). Was it worth it to give up Paris out of fear of losing someone you love?
So here you are, with an opportunity to fulfill a dream, pursue an idea, or just get out and go find yourself. Despite what anyone says, if you want it, you can do it - even if you and your partner are usually attached at the hip. Enter the idea of “SPACE”. Our generation seems so scared of it. Scared of missing out on something or of losing someone. But I’m here to tell you that it is possible to commit to YOURSELF while still honoring and respecting the connection and commitment made with or to another person. People will be okay with it, and if they aren’t… maybe they should read this.
It could hurt, it could suck, other people might not understand it, but there shouldn’t be a stigma in how space is defined or explained. If you want to go find yourself, go figure out your life, people who truly love you won’t be thinking “you have commitment issues” or “you don’t know what you’re doing” … they will be thinking “that’s awesome” or “I’m so proud of you” or “I can’t wait to hear about all that you’ll be doing.”
Space could be an amazing and necessary platform for change. A platform to open yourself up to new experiences that will lead to and develop deeper connections. Maybe you already feel this way, as I do, or maybe this is opening your eyes to a new light. I believe you should embrace the space, wherever you can find or create it. Start the conversation and see what doors it will open when you do.